Building A Thriving Family In Your Second Half

Building A Thriving Family In Your Second Half
This is a guest article by Lloyd and Linda Reeb.  Lloyd is an author, speaker, coach, and the Primary Spokesperson for The Halftime Institute in Dallas, TX, an organization that teaches, coaches, and connects marketplace leaders to help them discover and live out God’s calling on their lives.  Linda is the Founder of MomsMentoring in Mooresville, NC, a dynamic team that mentors, supports, and encourages moms in building strong, Biblically-based marriages and families.

Halftime is a personal journey from success to significance. It’s a deep learning at midlife that “it’s not about me”.  As well, it can be about more than just Mom and Dad’s second half. It can be a turning point in a family’s legacy.

One of the most rewarding aspects of the Halftime Journey is taking our family with us on this exploration and adventure. Linda and I want our kids and grandkids to not only be successful in what they pursue but to live deep, rich, rewarding, self-sacrificing lives. Ironically this is the one thing we can’t buy for them. We can buy them a great education and diverse experiences, but this we have to model for them.

The idea of building a thriving family in our second half suggests at least three things:

  • I need to have a proactive leadership role to play in the family even if our kids have moved away.
  • There’s a difference between leading my family in the first half compared to the second.
  • There is a difference between a healthy family and a thriving family.
We want you to continue to think through these important elements to leading your family in your second half. Read these practical questions below and think through how they will affect our ability to thrive.
  1. In one or two words describe the role you envision in leading your family in the second half?
  2. What will need to change in how you lead your family in the second half compared to the first half?
  3. What do you feel are the differences between a healthy and a thriving family?
  4. What will dominate our thinking:
    Houses – Where will we spend our summers and winters?
    -or-
    Homes – How will we help build God-honoring, harmonious homes in our family?Hobbies – What would be fun and fulfilling to spend our time on once we retire?
    -or-
    Habits – How can we model the most important habits for our family and inspire them to incorporate those into their daily routines?

    Vacations – There are so many places we have always wanted to visit and perhaps now we can take our kids/grandkids.
    -or-
    Vocations – What are our individual callings and how can we help each other thrive in living those out?

    Leaving Legacy – How much should we spend on ourselves vs. leave as a legacy to our kids/grandkids?
    -or-
    Living Legacies – How will we include our family in our giving so they learn generosity?

  5. Where would you like to put more emphasis in this next season?
  6. What do you feel is missing in this list of questions that is important to you?
  7. What is your role in leading the family, and what is your vision for your family over these next 30 years? What do you need to do it well?
    In a single word, define the role you want to play in your family in your second half.
    What do you need to do or learn to bring your best to that role?
  8. What are the core values that underpin your family as it grows? How will you help instill those values?
    Take five minutes and write down the 3 or 4 core values you would like to build your family.
  9. How well do you know your extended family? What next level of understanding would most help you in your leadership role?
    What is the greatest risk and opportunity for each person in your immediate family this year? How will you help them get what they need?

As we mentioned earlier, one of the most rewarding aspects of the Halftime Journey is taking our family with us on this exploration and adventure. Linda and I want our kids and grandkids to not only be successful in what they pursue but to live deep, rich, rewarding, self-sacrificing lives. As we know, this is the one thing we can’t buy for them but need to model for them.

As we wrap up, we have 3 final questions we want you to pause and think about:

  1. Serving: Are there ways you can serve together as a family and what is your role in that?
  2. Legacy: What legacy do you want to live out?
    How will you lead your family on a journey of generosity?
    What next steps will you take to develop or refine your plan?
  3. Celebrating: How will you celebrate all of God’s blessings in your family and what He’s doing through you to bless others?